God himself, sir, does not propose to judge man until the end of his days. Why should you and I? – Dr. Johnson
I just started reading this classic by Dale Carnegie (linked below) and the first principle he shares on how to build great relationships is ‘Don’t Criticize, Condemn or Complain’! We are complex beings, a muddle of ego, emotions and opinions, we do have to tread carefully when attempting to build long term relationships! When we put someone down by telling them exactly why they’re wrong we rarely achieve the goal of nurturing great relationships. Criticism puts the recipient into a defensive mode and their hurt ego cannot easily respond back positively.
Why should we judge anyway? Putting self into that mode transports us into that negative vibration and makes life for us more like the recipient of our judgment. Have we observed how often we experience that which we noticed or ‘judged’ in another’s experience? Why is that? The more we stay in a positive vibration, the better it simply is!
Daily Affirmation: Today I judge not!