A real leader will always follow. – Dale Carnegie

saving face…

We all have a tendency to save our own face. What if we let others save theirs’? What will that do to their self-confidence? How will they view us? What better way to build a great relationship? Let’s truly trust someone else by helping save their face…

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26th Dale Carnegie Principle: Let the other person save face..

Here’s a story from the book:

Years ago the General Electric Company was faced with the delicate task of removing Charles Steinmetz from the head of a department. Steinmetz, a genius of the first magnitude when it came to electricity, was a failure as the head of the calculating department. Yet the company didn’t dare offend the man. He was indispensable – and highly sensitive. So they gave him a new title. They made him Consulting Engineer of the General Electric Company – a new title for work he was already doing -and let someone else head up the department.
Steinmetz was happy.
So were the officers of G.E. They had gently maneuvered their most temperamental star, and they had done it without a storm – by letting him save face.

Daily Affirmation: Today I let others save face…

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Simply changing one three-letter word can often spell the difference between failure and success in changing people… – Dale Carnegie

but…

Who amongst us doesn’t make sentences like the following when talking to others?

“What you say makes a lot of sense but this is what I have to say…”

How effective is such an approach? What would happen if we replace the ‘but’ with an ‘and’? As soon as the other person hears us say ‘but’ they start to tune us out and build up mental defenses. When we want to point out an error in another’s way of doing (or being) something, let’s do so as tactfully as possible.

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23rd Dale Carnegie Principle: Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.

Here’s a story from the book:

Charles Schwab was passing through one of his steel mills one day at noon when he came across some of his employees smoking. Immediately above their heads was a sign that said "No Smoking." Did Schwab point to the sign and say, "Can’t you read.? Oh, no not Schwab. He walked over to the men, handed each one a cigar, and said, "I’ll appreciate it, boys, if you will smoke these on the outside." They knew that he knew that they had broken a rule – and they admired him because he said nothing about it and gave them a little present and made them feel important. Couldn’t keep from loving a man like that, could you?

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM an ‘and’, not a ‘but’ kind of person!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie