The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.– Stephen Covey

ultimate success

If we’re going to ask someone to do something or ask them to adopt a certain viewpoint then we must show how it benefits them. If we further enlarge the concept to show how the idea will benefit a larger group of individuals then yet another thing might happen! Universal forces (angels and the like!) will likely get involved. The Universe wants the betterment of everyone involved, having that as the ultimate goal guarantees eventual success…

life principles

30th Dale Carnegie Principle: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest..

Here’s a story from the book:

I knew a man who had to refuse many invitations to speak, invitations extended by friends, invitations coming from people to whom he was obligated; and yet he did it so adroitly that the other person was at least contented with his refusal. How did he do it? Not by merely talking about the fact that he was too busy and too-this and too-that. No, after expressing his appreciation of the invitation and regretting his inability to accept it, he suggested a substitute speaker. In other words, he didn’t give the other person any time to feel unhappy about the refusal, He immediately changed the other person’s thoughts to some other speaker who could accept the invitation.

Daily Affirmation: Today I make others happy!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie