Finding Real Security

True security is found in an inward relationship with Reality, not in an outward relationship with a man. Self-change toward lasting happiness proceeds from the inner to the outer.Vernon Howard

where to look

Here Vernon is talking to a woman who was asking him about relationship issues. We must peek inside first. We must seek that which we already possess. No one or no thing outside can guarantee us long term peace and fulfillment.

awareness

Getting to know ourselves, what we like, dislike, how we operate, what keeps us ticking etc. is of primary importance. This is a path that leads to a deeper relationship with the source of wisdom, that’s inside us.

Daily Affirmation: Today I will listen first and then talk. I will understand my real motivations behind any action. I will pause, then act.

Recommendation:

Making the Shift: How to Live Your True Divine PurposeLiving the Wisdom of the Tao: The Complete Tao Te Ching and AffirmationsKindle Wireless Reading Device (6" Display, Global Wireless, Latest Generation)

Create Your Life

The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation. You are not discovering yourself, but creating yourself anew. Seek, therefore, not to find out who you are, seek to determine who you want to be. Neale Donald Walsch

discover or create?

Do we discover and uncover our selves or do we create our selves? Depends on what you think your deep self is. The Eastern way to see it is that our inner-self is perfect, waiting to be uncovered… Another way to think is that we’re born with a tabula rasa and it’s up to us to create a life.

how about both?

I believe that it’s both paradigms working at the same time. We have an eternal component within us; that’s the potential we’re trying to actualize. As we do that, we grow our own selves, we create our own lives.

Daily Affirmation: Today I take full responsibility for creating my life. I will co-create with my divine inner-self to increase truth, beauty and goodness in the universe.

Recommendation: The Urantia Papers & The Life Purpose Coach

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Don’t Stay Blind

If there is no meditation, then you are like a blind man in a world of great beauty, light and colour.J Krishnamurthi

what is meditation?

Meditation is different things to different people. According to Krishnamurthi meditation is when you achieve a certain quality of mind. A mind that’s virginal, without preconceptions of any kind, and one that can perceive things just as they are.

deep perception

The goal of meditation is to stay mindful and enjoy the fruits of meditation at anytime and at all times. When that happens, we gain a deep perception of life and the participants therein. When we see the rain drop falling on a solitary leaf, we hear the sound of it, we see the splash in all it’s colorful beauty and we notice the leaf shiver as it receives the perfect drop of pure water into its bosom. Our perception of the world is now at a very deep level. We aren’t blind anymore.

Recommendation: The Power of Now & The Mystic Path to Cosmic Power

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Do You Hear What They Hear?

Those who danced were thought to be quite insane by those who could not hear the music.Angela Monet

imagine

.. not even knowing what music might sound like? Because you’ve been deaf your whole life? How then can you ever understand the sensation of hearing?

our unique perspective

Often that’s how others perceive truth, and their own world, thus making their world-view truly one of a kind! What if we remembered this every time we were in a one-on-one conversation, disagreement or some such human interaction?

Recommendation: Deep Listening

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Read To Alter Your Life

Reading is essential for those who seek to rise above the ordinary. We must not permit anything to stand between us and the book that could change our lives.Jim Rohn

problem solved

No matter what problem you have or situation you face; someone somewhere has figured out a solution to it or at least has some very good advice for you. This has been a gathering realization for me lately. Why invent the wheel?

go find that tome

Our job is to figure out what plagues us and then simply go looking for a book or an article already published. The Universe answers when you have a question. Ask the question and then watch for the clues, listen!

Recommendation: Notes from the Universe

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Relationship Success

The secret of many a man’s success in the world resides in his insight into the moods of men and his tact in dealing with them.J. G. Holland

looking deeper

We’re so often embedded in our own self, in our own world view, that we never pause to look, really look into someone’s eyes, into their soul itself. If we did that we would know much better what plagues or what drives the other individual, imagine how powerful that would be?

how though?

Practice is necessary. I often intend to listen deeply, but often forget. We ought to build a habit of it. Also we must be patient and receptive ourselves. We can be so if we’re calm, breathing easy and listening at very deep levels.

Recommendation: Awakening of Intelligence & Co-Active Coaching

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Emotional Freedom!

Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. – attributed to Helen Keller

avoiding negativity

It’s well known that focusing on the positive is supposed to be good for us. If you agree then putting our attention on the silver lining and the sunshine ought to do the trick. However does that mean we brush the negativity, the resentful thoughts and the hurtful past under the rug?

processing the past (active journaling)

One way to process your past completely is to journal. Not just journal casually and occasionally, but journal actively, with passion, daily and with abandon. You sit down and just start writing away. I call it Active Journaling. You don’t stop until you’ve written whatever’s on your mind, good, bad or ugly, onto paper (or typewritten). You write without worrying about editing, grammar or typos. You just write. Write about your passions, your worries, your fusses, your resentments, hates, likes or dislikes. You just pour your heart out. You write for 15 minutes (or longer) once or preferably twice daily. You focus your full attention on this writing practice, writing as fast as you can without pausing to just dwell on thoughts. You must write down everything that comes to your mind! I first learnt about this technique from Julia Cameron’s best seller ‘The Artist’s Way’. Check out her download here. I then read a fascinating book that helped deepen this journaling practice for me, this book is by Janet Cooper and it’s called ‘Writing Down Your Soul’. I’ve truly enjoyed reading this book on my Kindle!

processing the past (EFT)

The normal way we handle negativities is to try and not think about them. That doesn’t quite work. Another way to neutralize your past traumas, without forgetting the thought itself is via EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). If you’d like to learn EFT, please download the The EFT Manual from Dr. Gary Craig’s website. It’s a technique that combines affirmations with the physical tapping of energy centers around the body. The method effectively rebalances the movement of energy in your body. It works to fix or alleviate most emotional issues and many physical ailments that resulted from such emotional issues. You can also check out a video introduction to EFT on my site here.

Recommendations:

The Artist's Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity [10th Anniversary Edition]Writing Down Your Soul: How to Activate and Listen to the Extraordinary Voice WithinThe EFT Manual (EFT: Emotional Freedom Techniques)Kindle Wireless Reading Device (6" Display, Global Wireless, Latest Generation)