True security is found in an inward relationship with Reality, not in an outward relationship with a man. Self-change toward lasting happiness proceeds from the inner to the outer. – Vernon Howard
where to look
Here Vernon is talking to a woman who was asking him about relationship issues. We must peek inside first. We must seek that which we already possess. No one or no thing outside can guarantee us long term peace and fulfillment.
Getting to know ourselves, what we like, dislike, how we operate, what keeps us ticking etc. is of primary importance. This is a path that leads to a deeper relationship with the source of wisdom, that’s inside us.
Daily Affirmation: Today I will listen first and then talk. I will understand my real motivations behind any action. I will pause, then act.