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How Can Silence Help?

Language can only deal meaningfully with a special, restricted segment of reality. The rest, and it is presumably the much larger part, is silence.George Steiner

when words fail

Often we find ourselves in situations where words fail. This might be when the other person is not listening or when we can’t add much value with words. Remember situations when another person has suffered a tragedy and we don’t quite know what to say? Or when we say things we don’t quite mean?

silence…

When all else fails, silence speaks volumes. A silent mind is energized and motivated. Silence is often the best policy when others are not listening. It also works wonders when we don’t know how to console another. And certainly it does the trick when we’re just filling space with meaningless chatter.

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM silent.

Recommendation: Tao Te Ching by Lao-Tse

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How To Earn Respect…

When we treat children with respect, they in turn learn how to respect other human beings.Daisaku Ikeda

give respect

To earn respect we must give respect. And we must give it genuinely. When we do that the other person sees us more generously. Generosity automatically earns respect. Generous listening is the next step; it’s the icing on the cake and it’s the most giving thing any human can do.

all children

We’re all children at heart. We want to be appreciated, heard, loved and respected. If we treat everyone we meet as childlike individuals we won’t have too many relationship problems. Therefore we won’t have too many life problems. Interacting with others from a childlike perspective is about as close as it gets to a ‘silver bullet’ for all of society’s ills!

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM full of childlike respect!

Recommendation: What Got You Here Won’t Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith

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How To Be Accepted By All

Only those who give over all desire to reject can know that their own rejection is impossible.A Course in Miracles (ACIM)

creators

Mind is the laboratory and thoughts the instruments we use to create aspects of our life. Once we know how much our thinking impacts our life we realize the importance of designing our thoughts! Let’s be artists and paint beautiful thoughts for us and everyone else…

goes around, comes around

How do we view life? How do we approach and judge people? The way we show up is how life shows up for us. The way we judge others (the energies we unleash), we are judged too, in other words ‘what goes around comes around’. Our judgmental thoughts follow the trajectory that we’ve triggered which is why we must design even our judgments!

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM a thought designer!

Recommendation: A Course in Miracles by Dr. Helen Schucman

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How Even Sorrow Is Useful…

…that sorrow makes us all children again, destroys all differences of intellect.Ralph Waldo Emerson

suffering

Suffering is a reality wherever we look. In our collective and individual sorrow lies a gift. What is it? How will we discover it? What will we do with it?

the gift!

A gift is present in all that we experience. We simply have to detach from self and look from a ‘higher’ perspective. Imagine a family that’s suffering because an elderly parent is close to death. If the gift is accepted, the children of that household will come together, be thankful for what they are and what they have. Thankful also for all that their parent made possible. The children bond closer together, united at a difficult time and overlook all differences. What a poetic moment this can become! The whole family is enriched from this experience, it’s a gift that may never stop giving…

Daily Affirmation: Today I accept the gift of sorrow!

Recommendation: Moments in Between by David Kundtz

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How To Be Welcome Anywhere!

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others.Alfred Adler

indifference

Most of the time we’re only interested in our own life. We ask ‘What can this person give me that I need?’, or ‘what’s in it for me in this situation?’. Because we’re either selfish or indifferent we miss out on Life’s great opportunities. An opportunity to deepen relationships, to truly understand others, to help when someone is desperate for help, or even to improve our own lives…

life principles

4th Dale Carnegie Principle: Be genuinely interested in other people.

Here’s a story written by President Roosevelt’s valet James Amos:

"My wife one time asked the President about a bobwhite. She had never seen one and he described it to her fully. Sometime later, the telephone at our cottage rang. (The Amos’ lived in a cottage on the Roosevelt estate.) My wife answered it and it was Mr. Roosevelt himself. He had called, he said, to tell her that there was a bobwhite outside her window and that if she would look out she might see it."

What a great example of showing genuine interest in another individual! And that’s the key, being genuinely and truly interested in the other individual no matter who they are or whether they can ever be useful to us. This principle is a key that’ll allow us to be welcome everywhere we go!

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM genuinely interested in others!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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How To Wow Anyone!

Many persons call a doctor when all they want is an audience.Reader’s Digest

just listen

How can we impress anyone? How can we help anyone instantly? By simply listening to them. Most people like to talk, even those who don’t talk much love to talk when given a real chance. Just like people love to hear their name, they love even more to hear their own voice! When we give that gift to anyone, we are more appreciated than we can imagine!

life principles

7th Principle: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

This simple technique works wonders. But let’s not use it as a technique. Let’s use it to genuinely listen and learn about others, their problems and goals. Then we can be better equipped to help them in their journey.

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM a real listener!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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Why Sincere Appreciation Works!

The way to develop the best that is in a man is by appreciation and encouragement.Charles M Schwab

appreciate

We all have a big need to feel important. By making the other person feel important we can build amazing relationships. Dale Carnegie states that the 2nd principle in winning people over is to ‘Give honest, sincere appreciation’.

sincerely

Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him. Ralph Waldo Emerson

If we make the soul-effort to find that which is great and noteworthy in the other individual we can honestly point that out and make the other person feel important. Only goodness can come from that!

Daily Affirmation: Today I notice others’ greatness!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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