Category Archives: Quotes – 2012

Why We Must Praise First!

Beginning with praise is like the dentist who begins his work with Novocain. The patient still gets a drilling, but the Novocain is painkilling.Dale Carnegie

begin with praise!

If we have to find fault with another and convey news that might not be palatable to their ego then how should we do it? We can start by genuinely praising the individual. This sets the stage to deliver the harsh truth. It opens the individual up to receive the truth about their actions. Let’s be practitioners of the ‘Art of Relationships’!

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22nd Dale Carnegie Principle: Begin with praise and honest appreciation..

Here’s a story from the book:

A friend of mine was a guest at the White House for a weekend during the administration of Calvin Coolidge. Drifting into the President’s private office, he heard Coolidge say to one of his secretaries, "That’s a pretty dress you are wearing this morning, and you are a very attractive young woman."
That was probably the most effusive praise Silent Cal had ever bestowed upon a secretary in his life. It was so unusual, so unexpected, that the secretary blushed in confusion. Then Coolidge said, "Now, don’t get stuck up. I just said that to make you feel good. From now on, I wish you would be a little bit more careful with your Punctuation."
His method was probably a bit obvious, but the psychology was superb. It is always easier to listen to unpleasant things after we have heard some praise of our good points.

Daily Affirmation: Today I praise first!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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Why We Must All Be Free!

I wish that every human life might be pure transparent freedom.  – Simone de Beauvoir

happy independence day

July 1st and July 4th mark independence for Canada and the United States, respectively, congratulations!! Independence Days by Month and Country.

We ought to be free. What does that mean?

We should be free of fear. We should be free of our biases and ignorance.  We should free ourselves of our limiting assumptions. We should be free of all negativity. We should free others of our expectations. We should freely forgive everyone including self. We should be free to love. We should be free of others’ opinions of us. We should be free of what society thinks we should be doing or wearing.

We should free ourselves from excessive materialism. We should free some time up to devote to God. We should free some time up to serve others.

vacation

Out this whole week, see you back on Monday, July 9th!

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM free, and set everyone else free!!

Recommendation: Living the Science of Mind by Ernest Holmes

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Why Love Is The Answer…

To love and win is the best thing. To love and lose, the next best.  – William M. Thackeray

love

People will irritate us. They will be selfish and thoughtless. They will often disappoint us. Relationships will sometimes result in sorrow. Let’s love anyway…

more love

To love is the highest action we can undertake. Being love is the highest way to be. Love is the fabric of this universe, it’s the defining principle and very purpose of all life. Nothing can go ‘wrong’ when we love in response to anyone and any situation.

Daily Affirmation: Today I live and breathe love…

Recommendation: Love: What Life Is All About by Leo F. Buscaglia

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Why We Must ‘Be’ First!

That which is like unto itself is drawn.  – Abraham

vibrations

Like attracts like. This orderly Universe is run by predictable laws. Many of these laws like the one we’re discussing are ‘spiritual’ in nature. How can we live and practice this law successfully?

be-come

We must first ‘be’ what we intend to actualize in our lives. The word ‘become’ provides a clue! Be first, then allow the manifestation of that vibration into our lives, let it come! So if are to become something, we must visualize it, feel it deeply (in our mind and body) and thus stoke those vibrations into our experience. The rest is to simply allow it to manifest without investing ourselves into ‘how’ it’ll happen or any other such expectation!

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM what I intend to be!

Recommendation: The Law of Attraction by Esther Hicks

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Why We Are Ignorant!

Self-rescue comes closer each time we voluntarily come face to face with our own ignorance.  – Vernon Howard

self-awareness

Life is nothing but a journey towards greater self-awareness. If we are to be happy and therefore successful, we must face our shortcomings and blind-spots. What is it that comes in our way?

chutzpah

Our ego get’s in the way. Here’s a great article shared by a friend on Why Smart People Are Stupid! We think we’re so smart that we neglect to notice our own short-comings. The work-around is to become more self-aware and humble. Humility will bestow its timeless gift to us only if we acknowledge and accept its presence!

Daily Affirmation: Today I move in humility…

Recommendation: The Mystic Path to Cosmic Power by Vernon Howard

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Why It’s Time To Grow Up!

I am not in this world to live up to other people’s expectations, nor do I feel that the world must live up to mine.  – Fritz Perls

expectations

The single factor that guarantees relationship problems is ‘expectations’. What do we expect from others? From our spouse or our boss? What should my sibling or parents be doing for me? In the same vein, how do we fall short in others’ eyes? What pressure do we feel, daily, to measure up to what others may want from us?

maturity

Let’s all grow up. Let’s not tie our happiness to what others must do for us. Let’s feel at ease about what we think we must do for others. Let’s do for others all we can in love and for no other reason.

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM Love and need nothing in return…

Recommendation: The Power of Nice by Linda Kaplan Thaler

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Why We Might Challenge Others!

The desire to excel! The challenge! Throwing down the gauntlet! An infallible way of appealing to people of spirit.  – Dale Carnegie

challenge!

To encourage action consider throwing down a challenge! An appropriate challenge will galvanize action like nothing else! A human’s ego is a very sensitive appendage, touch it in the right way and it’ll make the human do the unexpected. It goes without saying that the challenge must be a genuine effort and not manipulation.

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20th Dale Carnegie Principle: Throw down a challenge!

Here’s a story from the book:

Sing Sing, at the time the most notorious penitentiary west of Devil’s Island, was without a warden. Scandals had been sweeping through the pristin walls, scandals and ugly rumors. Smith needed a strong man to rule Sing Sing – an iron man. But who? He sent for Lewis E. Lawes of New Hampton.
"How about going up to take charge of Sing Sing?" he said jovially when Lawes stood before him. "They need a man up there with experience."
Lawes was flabbergasted. He knew the dangers of Sing Sing. It was a political appointment, subject to the vagaries of political whims. Wardens had come and gone – one had lasted only three weeks. He had a career to consider. Was it worth the risk?
Then Smith, who saw his hesitation, leaned back in his chair and smiled. "Young fellow," he said, "I don’t blame you for being scared. It’s a tough spot. It’ll take a big person to go up there and stay."
So Smith was throwing down a challenge, was he? Lawes liked the idea of attempting a job that called for someone "big."
So he went. And he stayed. He stayed, to become the most famous warden of his time. His book 20,000 Years in Sing Sing sold into the

hundred of thousands of copies. His broadcasts on the air and his stories of prison life have inspired dozens of movies. His "humanizing" of criminals wrought miracles in the way of prison reform.

Daily Affirmation: Today I AM a challenger!

Recommendation: How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie

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