If you can’t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there worrying. It’s the worry that gets you, not the lack of sleep. – Dale Carnegie
Let’s watch self and our tendency to manufacture thoughts about what can go wrong. We misuse our creativity when we dwell on the negative. Did we know that our brain is wired for positivity and optimism? Let’s support our own biology and be happier!
2nd Basic Technique in Analyzing Worry: Weigh all the facts — then come to a decision.
Decisions are the life-blood of this spiritual universe. Let’s make a decision and allow the universe to support us in our creative endeavors. That’s why we’re here on this planet, to do stuff, to actualize, to create!
Daily Affirmation: Today I AM a master decision maker!
Facts are many, but the truth is one. – Rabindranath Tagore
Facts can and do help. We must gather all the facts when we find ourselves slipping into worry mode! If we can stay objective the facts will allow us to discern how much worry is truly justified! What’s really going on? Are we jumping to conclusions?
1st Basic Technique in Analyzing Worry: Get all the facts!
Beyond the facts we should narrow in on the truth of the situation. Here’s one Truth to consider: We are children of God. We’re safe wherever we go…we’ll be ok no matter what.
Daily Affirmation: Today I AM getting the facts first!
If things go wrong, don’t go with them. – Roger Babson
Life deals us all kinds of cards. How we pick these cards up, play with them and throw them back into the deck called Life is up to us. If our cards are ‘wrong’ we can’t let that affect us emotionally or physically.
3rd Principle to Overcome Worry: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health.
Our health is largely in our hands. We must not allow worry and stress to impact our health. To do that would be to harm self. Let’s catch ourselves worrying and decide to let it go…
Daily Affirmation: Today I AM letting go!
Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. – Natalie Goldberg
When real or perceived trouble approaches we get stressed. We often don’t know what to do about it. This week let’s focus on another principle that’ll help us tackle worry. ’Living in day-tight compartments’ was the first principle to help us disengage from worry! Thank you Dale Carnegie for sharing this wisdom with us!
2nd Principle to Overcome Worry: Know how to face trouble a) Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?” b) Prepare to accept the worst. c) Try to improve on the worst.
Figuring out the worst case scenario forces us to face it. Once we face it we may find that it’s really not that bad. Next we can ‘prepare’ to deal with such an eventuality. Finally we can do what we can to improve the situation. Let’s use our thinking faculty, stop hyper-ventilating and do the best we can!
Daily Affirmation: Today I face trouble calmly!
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy. – Leo Buscaglia
reasons for worry
How can we stop worrying? There’s so much to do, much that needs our attention, relationships to tend and a never ending list of new things that keep cropping up! We’re responsible for family and self, how can we not worry? Right?
1st Principle to Overcome Worry: Live in “day tight compartments.”
Here’s a bit of background on this principle from this site:
“This term was first coined by Sir William Osler when he encountered this life-changing quote from Thomas Carlisle, “It is not our goal to see what lies dimly in the distance but to do what clearly lies at hand.”
Why worry when we can live in joy now and today? Let’s live in ‘day tight compartments’. By doing that we get accustomed to focusing on the here and the now. We deal with issues based on their relevance to today, only. Let’s try it!
Daily Affirmation: Today I live entirely in ‘Today’!
The most important ingredient we put into any relationship is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.– Stephen Covey
If we’re going to ask someone to do something or ask them to adopt a certain viewpoint then we must show how it benefits them. If we further enlarge the concept to show how the idea will benefit a larger group of individuals then yet another thing might happen! Universal forces (angels and the like!) will likely get involved. The Universe wants the betterment of everyone involved, having that as the ultimate goal guarantees eventual success…
30th Dale Carnegie Principle: Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest..
Here’s a story from the book:
I knew a man who had to refuse many invitations to speak, invitations extended by friends, invitations coming from people to whom he was obligated; and yet he did it so adroitly that the other person was at least contented with his refusal. How did he do it? Not by merely talking about the fact that he was too busy and too-this and too-that. No, after expressing his appreciation of the invitation and regretting his inability to accept it, he suggested a substitute speaker. In other words, he didn’t give the other person any time to feel unhappy about the refusal, He immediately changed the other person’s thoughts to some other speaker who could accept the invitation.
Daily Affirmation: Today I make others happy!
God knows that we all need to change; he also knows, as do we, that we can use a lot of encouragement! Today let’s remember to encourage others as well as self in our eternal quest to be better and more loving individuals!
29th Dale Carnegie Principle: Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
Here’s a story from the book:
Lowell Thomas, a superb artist in human relations, used this technique, He gave you confidence, inspired you with courage and faith. For example, I spent a weekend with Mr. and Mrs. Thomas; and on Saturday night, I was asked to sit in on a friendly bridge game before a roaring fire. Bridge? Oh, no! No! No! Not me. I knew nothing about it. The game had always been a black mystery to me, No! No! Impossible!
“Why, Dale, it is no trick at all,” Lowell replied. “There is nothing to bridge except memory and judgment. You’ve written articles on memory. Bridge will be a cinch for you. It’s right up your alley.”
And presto, almost before I realized what I was doing, I found myself for the first time at a bridge table. All because I was told I had a natural flair for it and the game was made to seem easy.
Daily Affirmation: Today I focus on encouraging others!