If you want a quality, act as if you already had it. Try the “as if” technique. – William James
Making yourself believe that you can do or achieve something is to win more than half the battle. In psychology this method has been studied and ratified.
If you feel depressed, make the face of a happy person, start smiling and try to act as though things are just fine. You’ll feel better.
The reverse works too.
How many times have you been pulled down by how others are? Or by focusing on the negative, how often have you landed in a soup?
Thoughts do make things, believe it, act on it, and consequently manifest it!
Recommendation: The Law of Attraction
The presence of fear is a sure sign that you are trusting in your own strength. – A Course in Miracles (ACIM)
We all feel fear. Where does it come from?
It arises from a reliance on ourselves.
We think we can handle it all. At the same time, deep down, we feel inadequate. We feel that we’re not ultimately safe. The imbalance between what we think and what we are, creates the fear. Which leads to depression.
How do we change this?
By connecting to your deep self (which is light, love & joy), often. And by knowing that a greater intelligence, call it God, upholds us all, provides us strength and is there for us, at all times! Once we begin to rely on that great upholder more than on ourselves, our fear will dissipate.
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Men are born to succeed, not to fail. – Henry David Thoreau
You are already a success, just look around you, inside you, and at the life you’ve already created. Let your successful life guide your future and illuminate your present.
Your present is where you understand and accept the value of all that you’ve already become, it’s a culmination of sorts. It’s a future you had probably desired a long time ago. Recognize it, accept it and now celebrate it!
Celebrate the success that you already are!
Recommendation: This Time I Dance!: Creating the Work You Love
One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar. – Helen Keller
How often do we detect a desire to go do something big or worthwhile, and how quickly do we shoot it down to return to our ‘comfort zone’? Or how quickly do we let others shoot down such ideas?
Catch yourself when you do that. Notice what comes up when you consciously or not, push your real self’s desires down. What kind of fear is it that stops us from even dreaming our dreams, let alone living them?
As we become more aware of such debilitating thought-habits, we can slowly escape from its clutches. We slowly become whole.
We are made to succeed, we’re made to be joyous and happy, don’t trample your birthright by succumbing to a lesser self!
Recommendation: Do It! Let’s Get Off Our Buts
Your first relationship must be with yourself. – Neale Donald Walsch
We must be peaceful first, we must be comfortable in our own skin first, we must know self first, before we can be truly happy.
Peace comes when the constant chatter in our mind begins to slow down and when we understand that we’re ultimately safe in God. Practice meditation.
Self-respect arrives when we accept ourselves just as we are, even though there’s lot’s to improve. It arrives when we’re not too concerned about what others think of us. Practice affirmations, recognize your own beauty.
Self-knowledge arises when we observe our habits, our tendencies, our assumptions and what drives us. Practice awareness.
When we have peace, self-respect and self-knowledge we know that true happiness can be sustained through a selfless approach towards others, an approach that leads to service.
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In the heating and air conditioning trade, the point on the thermostat in which neither heating nor cooling must operate – around 72 degrees – is called “The Comfort Zone.” It’s also know as the “The Dead Zone.” – Russell Bishop
Now we know where the concept of ‘The Comfort Zone’ came from! It’s actually quite appropriate that it’s also referred to as ‘The Dead Zone’. It’s the zone in which we can’t really grow. We just cruise along and soon enough we’re not happy with ourselves, our lives and the world!
So when that happens to you, look within and try to figure out how much of your life’s being lived in the dreaded comfort zone!
Awareness is always the first step, action comes next, the being must come first only then can the doing be appropriate and effective.
First Be then Do!
Recommendation: The Art of Being
If you want a place in the sun, you must leave the shade of the family tree. – Osage Saying
We make subtle agreements with ourselves about everything in life, here are some examples:
- I’m smart but not creative.
- I can give but others don’t give to me.
- My health is poorer now because I’ve crossed this age.
- No one really understands me.
What agreements have you made with yourself?
To free yourself, to see yourself as others might see you, and to start to see yourself as God sees you, we must examine all such agreements we make with life.
- Only then do we have a chance to get away from the shade we grew up under.
- Only then can we find a place in the Sun.
- Only then can we awaken to the life we’re truly meant to live!
Examine your assumptions, then step out of the box!
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